Experiencing Intimate Partner Betrayal or Betrayal Trauma is an excruciatingly painful experience. Many find the experience difficult to put into words. Your entire world has been rocked. Regardless of the details, many partners impacted by intimate partner betrayal feel as though they are not good enough.

Who is this person you thought you knew? How could they have lied and deceived you? If this is not the first time they’ve betrayed you; but you thought it would never happen again-what do you do now? Should you stay or go? These and many other questions will overwhelm you.

At the core of betrayal lies a violation of trust and safety. You may feel humiliation, shock, anger, and disbelief. You may experience betrayal in any or several of these areas: emotionally, spiritually, socially, physically, sexually, and financially.

Infidelity aka cheating is the most common form of intimate partner betrayal. Cheating can include sexual or emotional engagement. Your partner may have multiple instances of infidelity, have sexual compulsivity or be addicted to sex or pornography.

I consider myself a sex positive, kink positive, LGBTQ and poly affirming therapist. I do not judge my clients choices or become shocked and uncomfortable when discussing sexuality and sexual behaviors.

I can’t tell you what to do or if you should stay or go. What I can do is support and empower you so that you make the decisions that are right for you.